I grew up a very introverted and shy child. I was always wanting to fit in, to be like everyone else. I was the best wallflower you'd ever know. I remember being intimidated by the tv versions of the perfect mother, or wife. I was nothing like them. And the perfect woman…forget it. I grew up chubby and wore glasses…nothing like the models on tv! I had trouble thinking of myself as a woman. I knew I was female, but since I didn't fit what I saw on tv, I must not be a woman. I didn't fit the mold.
I remember when my second child was born. I was in the hospital, holding my daughter, looking at her in awe and wonder when an instant of clarity occurred. I thought, I am married, with a husband and two children. That must mean, that now…I must be a woman. Therefore, I must be an adult. It was a moment of self-discovery that I've never forgotten.